Acceptance into a social circle is a necessity for normal human beings. Consciously you may deny it, but subconsciously you really need it. Few years ago I wrote, you can be a good person but don't overdo it. My perception of this still remains the same. I came across many posts in regards of "don't be a nice person, be a bad person. If a person cannot accept the bad side of things; that person is not worth being in your social circle." I may agree to a certain extent but I disagree to a large extent. Words can be a double edge word, it may bring a person to heaven or push someone to hell. That is why communication is a form of art and a knowledge to be learn. No one likes someone to treat themselves badly, everyone is seeking for kind, empathy and trust from others. Though some people perceive ignorance as a negative thing but to me, ignorance is the best medicine. Why must I inflect negative behavior onto someone when I have the choice to ignore? I may type this but I did behave badly in front of people who I felt uncomfortable with.
There is one thing about acceptance which I do not feel so good about. Subconsciously knowing that a group of friends refuse to accept me for who I am keep keeping me in a group where I aren't suppose to be. Maybe because I came to know what true acceptance from others feel like. My current classmates gave me the kind of acceptance which I thought it will never come back to me after my primary school days. This negative result may come from changes in character, perspective, environment and pressure that I faced. Maybe I'm fine with them putting me in a group but something that I am very uncomfortable with is that friends who think that they truly understand me and go round telling others they really do understand me. Actually it is a joke, you don't.
Another thing about being a nice person. Some people are just nice, as in nice to everyone. Yes it is a plus point and everyone likes you. But being nice against your will isn't it bad? I did over praise a few of my friends that "oh you are the nicest person on earth" or "you are the nicest person among my friends". It is a white lie actually because those people are actually people who hurt me the most but they are people who wants someone to tell them they are nice.
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Friday, October 18, 2013
8 days ago was my 22nd birthday and I'm going to upload some awesome photos from my classmates and my iPhone. Here you go!
8twelvers had 2 new classmates this year! Thanks Jon for making such a nice design for the photo!
However, there is one missing Tommy in this photo.
They took this photo while they were trying to light up the candles, I went to the toilet and had no idea they were gonna sing a birthday song for me. Jones did an awesome brownie for me and I'm super duper happy that she actually took the night to bake it!
The music techies brought me to Swenson's for my birthday treat! Thanks guys!
I went home and mum bought my favorite coffee cake! The 2 guys up there doesn't like to eat coffee cake so mum bought 2 small chocolate cake specially for them... CHOOSY EATERS!
My dad took the photo up there, so he wasn't in that photo but here! DAD!!!
Wee Wee sent a birthday card from Adelaide! Thank you!